Do you think the intense sexual pleasure a kinkster gets from his or her fetish is worth the social/sexual difficulties this may cause (eg inability to find a partner who will do that shit with you)?

fetish means nothing else will do it's their only way of getting off they probably think it's worth it.

I once chatted with this chick at a party... she needed pain to get off. I am so not into that on either end (giving or receiving pain). we could never be lovers.

yes, delayed gratification